If you’ve adopted or rescued cats and you’re not the only person in your household, you know that, once the cat moves in, he will choose a favorite person. This person is who he’ll go to first for petting. He greets this person when they arrive home. He naps on or near him or her. He spends more time interacting with this chosen one than with anyone else—following him, watching him, sitting close by.
We tend to believe that a cat or a dog will make a stronger connection to the person who feeds him, but research shows this isn’t necessarily true. It takes more than food to develop a rapport with a cat. Think back about the cats in your household and who they have
chosen as their person.
According to experts, generally a cat will choose a person who matches their personality. If the cat enjoys peace, calm, and quiet, he will avoid the more active family members. You might spend hours trying to express your adoration for this cat or kitten, yet he finds his comfort in your husband who, when home, is usually seated in front of the TV or computer. Don’t be surprised if you find your timid cat sound asleep on 
your husband’s chest during his afternoon nap.
Another reason why a cat might not connect with you is if you remind her of someone she knew before and didn’t get along with. You could be similar in size or stature to that person. You may be able to win this cat over, but it will most likely take a lot of patience and treats.
The woman who took in of our new kitten, Olivia, is 
about my size and stature. She had to give Olivia and her siblings medicinal baths every other day for three weeks before we could bring her home, so she was very hands-on with the kitten. I saw a video of Olivia getting a treatment and the little thing was purring up a storm during her soapy massage.
Olivia came to us absolutely adoring being petted and scratched and, yes, massaged. And I’m pretty sure the reason why I am the chosen one in our household for Olivia is because of the easy transition for her from her former caregiver to me. I couldn’t have planned it better, since I so wanted an affectionate kitten who loves the human touch.
Here’s a site giving more information and ideas for helping a cat to warm up to you.
